Day 20: Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand
I am a naturally curious person, I honestly ask when I find something I don’t understand. One thing that sometimes gets my interest is switching in the relationship and how the couple if discipline is part of their dynamic addresses a mutual violation.
Day 19: Any Unexpected Ways Kink Has Improved Your Life? If So, What Are They?
It has really helped the structure and stability of our marriage. Plus now that sweetness and I are out of our heads on what we are and what D/s means and have defined our dynamic, honestly things are so so so much better.
Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?
This likewise will get its own post but to name a few off the top of my head:
Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?
Good follow-up
Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?
The stigma or thanks to 50 shades of Bullshit the wrong impression of what this is.
Due to my career I cannot exactly shout from the mountains that I am a Dominant and sweetness is my submissive. There are times I have to curb myself from what I would naturally respond by doing when we are in public and there have been times when I have had to let something go from sweetness in public and wait the agonizing time til we got home to address it making the rest of the time in public uncomfortable because we both know unpleasantness will need to be addressed first off when we are home.
Day 15: Post A BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.
My sweetness is a Warrior Submissive among other things and I would love to see her be Domme towards another female submissive and allow me to watch. It would make her submission to me feel all the more empowering.
Day 14: How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?
I suppose that in a fantasy there is no need to worry as a Dom about anything other than what feels good and you want to do. I can do X without worry about Y happening to the submissive. Or I can just focus entirely on my pleasure without having to make sure that the submissive isn’t slipping into a dangerous zone. Fantasy is the bright and shiny made for TV burger that you see in the McDonald’s ads whereas the real life is the thing you get from McDonald’s drive thru. It still tastes good but there is more than you saw on the ad.
In the reality there is the responsibility you bear as a Dominant to your submissive.
Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?
I am by nature a Dominant person, when I am not involved in some aspects of my life where there is some level of control over something I feel stir crazy and almost foreign to myself. It truly is such a part of me that when I realized what it was that existed and began to allow it a little room to explore and define itself that I truly and finally felt like I knew myself. I had gone through a number of years in high education and other aspects where one should have “found themselves” but it was only when I discovered the D that ran through me that I found the draw and truly my brightest spark.
Day 12: Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had. If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.
I have fallen prey, before we crossed the soft limit threshold, to accidentally sticking My sweetness in the wrong hole. To her credit, she stayed in dynamic, politely safeworded, and then requestold me to get her some ice.
Day 11: What are your views on the ethics of kink?
I will likely do a more in depth entry on this at some point utilizing my insights professionally as well. Maybe someone can remind me.
In short I believe in a hybrid of SSC and RACK with main factors being:
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