30 Days of Kink- Day 30

Day 30: Whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to write about.


That’s what this Blog is about so go search and find a topic and pretend its here. Almost like I was reading your mind right 😉


30 Days of Kink- Day 29

Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (eg mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, Sir)? What is your opinion of these titles in general?

Mister, sweetness couldn’t find Sir in her but says Mister with the same level or respect as Sir was used in a previous dynamic and its her word and title so I am satisfied with it.

I believe that use of a title is an earned thing. Both for the submissive and Dominant. sweetness got her name, as my other submissive I have had got hers. I feel I have in both instances earned the titles of Mister and Sir that they used for me. My previous submissive asked me how she should address others and my feeling was that they should be addressed respectfully, but should not be given Sir because that was My title for her. I was her Sir noone else.

30 Days of Kink- Day 28

Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play? What significance does your attire have to you?

Depends what I was doing before we got into it. There have been times when I have been completely dressed out for work and there have been times when I have been naked and there have been all measures in between.

I naturally assume a slightly different Dominant persona when I am in my work clothes, but in general I am who I am and it is more a matter of mindset and headspace for tapping my Dominant side

30 Days of Kink- Day 26

Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?

I started my course doing this, even did some within the last year, but nothing substitutes for the real thing if its possible. That said for LDR or other obstacles, if that’s what is available to people I don’t look down on it. And its a great learning tool with lesser hardcore risk involved typically.

30 Days of Kink- Day 25

Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?

With people who share or at least have some insight into the scene and community? Decently, see also this blog and any email communication I have had with any of my readers.

With sweetness, completely. We believe in openness and honesty, after all how else can this kind of dynamic relationship work

General Public- Not so much, I may sometimes let it slip out a little, but it is normally played off as just my public persona which tends to be fairly vanilla Dominant anyway. If I was to say I am going to swat your rear to sweetness in public most people would presume it would be at most sex spanks not that she might end up tied, bent over, getting paddled or belted while having my manhood down her throat.

30 Days of Kink- Day 24

Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?

To answer this I need only look at sweetness to be able to answer. That’s not to say she is perfect, in fact there are days when I sometimes even remove a few of these in my head and wishes for that particular moment.

My sweetness is a submissive that didn’t know she was a submissive until I introduced it and then earned her submission. She is a bad-ass, super intelligent and driven woman. Due to circumstances she was a second mother to her half siblings who nobody dares to call anything other than her brother and sister. It is quite likely that she could have successfully navigated her way through life and been fairly successful at it. She is the very essence of a Warrior Princess Submissive

The qualities as a submissive that I like the best are her:

  1. Honesty- She will appropriately be open and communicative to me about how she is doing and if she is in a mystery headspace she will tell me that too so we can figure it out together.
  2. Loyalty- She has stayed with me through hard and worse times, we understand that it takes two to tango and while I may be her Mister and she My sweetness, at the end of the day we are a team and we are willing to fight for each other.
  3. Sense of Humor- In my job the tensity can sometimes break knives with its thickness, so I naturally need someone who is willing to allow my natural sense of humor out at times. That said I have a really sadistic and wicked sense of humor that somehow, someway sweetness seems to find pleasure in. My sweetness is willing to overlook some of the off color I might let out and see the true Mister that I am.
  4. Independence- Before you turn off the page, let me explain. I do not find the idea of a can’t live or breathe without Sir’s permission submissive to be to my liking. That seems like a slave and I am NOT a Master. I like a submissive who knows and submits to the rules I set out. My sweetness has my directives and expectations and some general sense how I feel she can achieve those things, but at the end of the day she calls the shots for a large majority of her time solo. I like that I have the ability to get her to acquiesce if it is something I have to have done my way entirely, but knowing that when I am in the middle of battle she is likely going to be able to carry on without my 24/7 hands on involvement.

30 Days of Kink- Day 23

Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed? How so?

Yep, as noted back on the day asking how I found out I was kinky. It started with me just knowing spanking existed, then that it was normalish/more widespread, then I discovered I am not just a Top or Spanker, but I am a Dominant and that is just my evolution to date.

30 days of Kink- Day 22

Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

I honestly don’t know that there is much difference in terms of what’s important, but rather the importance is just heightened given how emotionally and physically scarring what we do can be. The biggies are:

  1. Communication
  2. Honesty
  3. Loyalty
  4. Respect